A a follow up of Lesbian Boi’s Guide on landing a Girl in the Club …
Here is the start on how to Plan a Date. Now that you have the girls number, I hope now that you have planned to call her. No not text, that is informal and a pussy non engaging way out of putting yourself out there. It is like hiding behind a book while talking to someone in person. Put yourself out there, be bold and assertive. It will show your potential date you are not afraid to take charge in the relationship.
The Phone Call : Before you call, go over what you are going to say. To not trip over your words it is best to write a rough draft on things you want to say. Just like for a phone interview for a job, do not recite rather use them as guidelines to remind you of your words. A few things can now happen. She can pick up. Oh a flutter goes through you, you are nervous and don’t know what to say. Now goto your cheat sheet. Start off with “Hi this is whomever, remember me from where and what last night?” Blah blah, I had a good time, was wondering if you’d like to go for … whatever such and such night. Just go in for the kill, ask her on outing. Now most likely she will say yes. Naturally this should turn into some conversation. Do not be alarmed if it doesn’t. Everyone can be busy. But its probably best to ask her some open ended questions to get that going. Since you are planning a date, ask her what type of food she likes, or where/what she likes to do for fun. This will give you ideas on where to bring her and what to do. Most lesbians are dying for a date and if they even gave you their real number, chances are she wants you. Even if you don’t know if you like them, always go in positive. If you ask a girl on a date, act like you like her and treat her well. Don’t over compensate or lie, just be yourself. Now you can also get picked up by voicemail. Just leave a quick message. Key is quick. State who you are , your intentions of taking her out and clearly state your number. If she takes way too long to get back to you…8+ hours… she either had some extrenuating circumstances ( which she better have an explanation for/apology) or she was contemplating whether or not to call you, over thinking it etc etc. That is probably a bad sign already, like either she’s hiding something, if she has no time to call back, what makes you think she has time to be a good girlfriend. In this day and age, everyone is on their phone 24/7 especially if you gave your number out at the club. There is no excuse to not calling back within one business day. There are also better times to call. If you don’t want to be engaged in conversation… probably should call during work hours. Most people will not pick up. Do not call in the morning, they maybe sleeping. That will definitely annoy me to death. Afternoons and Evenings before 9pm are the best. Those times give them ample time to call back and have a chat in their leisure.
Picking a Location : Before you called the girl, you should have already had an idea of where you wanna go. Because you need to tell her where and when yall would like to meet up. However you can always call without a place, and say you will followup call with somewhere to meet and go. This way you can have an excuse to call and chat and confirm the date closer to the time. This will make the date a less awkward experience when yall do meet up. Anyways, picking a spot comes with a few categories.
First Date Location : Since we already established that money should not be an issue… if you are broke, you shouldn’t be dating. You should be finding more cheddar at this point. So I’ll just assume you have decent amount of cheese. Dinner, Drinks, Event? What should we start with? With someone I’m mildly not so interested in I usually go for drinks or hang out. Dinner is usually reserved for those who I believe I need to impress with my foodie skills. Always do something interactive in which conversation and getting to know each other can be achieved. Drinks are great for this. You both get loose and get to know each other… with the classics, what do you do, where do you live, who did you last fuck? Dinner should be done at a place with great atmosphere and ok food. We don’t wanna get stuffed, and we aren’t gonna eat that much since we should be staring at each other and talking. Not super romantic, but trendy and cool enough. Trend away from super ethnic and stinky weird foods like Indian or Ethiopian. I don’t want to use my fingers get dirty or smell like curry. You can also drink during dinner, however this will get pricey, a bottle of wine , 2 entrees, 1 appetizer, 1 dessert later, and we talking about a serious investment. So I only reserve fancy dining for fine bitches. Although casual dining is fine, we talking about BBQ’s , diners, and Thai spots run by Chinese folks. Events? I’m not a fan of movies. You can barely see the person, it’s darker lighting than the club. You don’t really talk to each other, and if your date is talking to you during the movie, I’d fucking drop them right now. I hate whispering in the movies, if I’m trying to listen to you, what makes you think I can hear the damn movie I paid 12 $ times 2 for??? Plus 20 $ worth of popcorn and soda. I would do something you usually enjoy. If you are the type with no life, than go to drink and dinner. But I love Dave and Busters, Shooting Pool, Museums etc. Although Museum should be a later date type thing. Comedy show? Jazz Club all valid ideas.
Second Date : Anything you didn’t do the first is game. More intimate setting is recommended. Since I hope you didn’t fuck the first date. I live my life looking for real relationships not fucks. I barely know a bitch the first date. I may kiss, but no tongue action. Also setting up the second date on the first date is a good way to not play stupid phone tag games. You should already be feeling out whether or not a second date is probable. If she is giddy and says yes I’d love to see you again, set a rough time and say you will call her. Control is everything. Don’t put the ball in her court. You will make her squirm. It’s puss to put the control in the femme. She will be turned off that you don’t take the reigns and pull her hair. What? Yes ! The places you pick to impress bitches is important too. You should have already a very cultural life, a repertoire of things you enjoy doing, places you know of fucking awesome to bring girls to. This will show you are a fun, cultural and have a rich life. Here are some more ideas, Karaoke, Romantic Strolls, Boat Cruises etc etc….
Third Date : Your so in by now. Now it’s time to choose, you wan’t to be in with this bitch or not? Is she worth your time? Is she fuckable. You need to Seal the Deal by the third date. We are gay… we are not religious. Seriously who still saves themselves. Sex is an important part of a relationship. You should’ve already talked about how you both are sexually. Like what excites her. Go ahead and invite her over for the third date. This is why you need a nice pad. Chic but with flavor. This is the way a Femme makes a final decision of whether you are material enough. She will note the location/neighborhood. Note how big your tv is and how clean your bathroom is. If you have psycho medication hide that shit. Prepare a fucking CD. After dinner or whatever you guys meet up for…. Ask her if she wants to come watch a movie, come up and chill, or whatever. Just get her through the door and start racking up the Bases. I’d say if you haven’t done it by the 4th date…. its a wrap… drop her number. She is either fucking someone else, double timing, a virgin, bad at it, or isn’t even a lesbian at all. I know as a lesbian it’s tough to drop emotional connections but lets face it… she’s wasting your money.
Date Payments : A lot of lesbians go dutch. I don’t believe in it. If you are a Boi, you wannabe a man. So pay for everything. A true Femme expects to be treated. Although when I’m not too feeling the person at the end I go dutch if they offer. LOL Hey no point in paying for something that is gonnabe a bust. Once you are in a locked in relationship we can now revisit the payment issue. If the girl doesn’t occasionally reciprocate coming out of pocket or treating you, we have a problem. Because in a capitalistic society money is love. She’s greedy and stingy and expects one way love. If she doesn’t treat you, she probably doesn’t do the same in bed. Drop that shit. Dead fish is out for a free meal
Pre Date Preparation : We are lesbians, so be casual but snazzy. Dress in an outfit that is 7/10. Don’t wanna show your femme up but make sure she knows that you have a nice presentation. You cannot pull out your best outfit either, because you’ll have nothing to wear for the 2nd and 3rd. The classic mistake is pulling out your best, the girl is blown away and then you slack the second date, and when the girl was super hot she is now like, wtf happened… ewww, its over. Same way if you meet a chick and she’s slamming, dress, hair, nails…. and she goes too casual, takes off her make up the second date.
When to End the Dating : It depends on the frequency you see each other of course. But as lesbians we are all bored and probably not dating 10 people at once like straight people. If the other girl tells you she is dating someone else, drop that shit. Greedy. Only Bisexual and Straight girls date multiple people at once. Lesbians don’t have options so if she does, this is a problem. Tell her to call you back when she’s done dating the other one, and you don’t run multiple game. If anything she will like you more cus you sound like a cocky badass but a better girlfriend pick. I’d say after a few times you’ve had sex, I wouldn’t really call it dating anymore, since we’ve both fucked in our mutual homes and we are comfortable with our bodies. However technically you are still dating until someone says I love you and confirms that you are now their exclusive girlfriend. That is when dating ends, and we assume that we will see each other every weekend. Anything less is not called a relationship. Also do not date for too long. If you are seeing signs that you are stuck in the Dating Phase. Kill it. If by 2 months of dating the wining, dining and impressing has not amounted to Girlfriend status, drop it.
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